10 Tips for New Runners

Happy Tuesday friends!

This post is long overdue, as I had meant to post it in January with New Year's resolutions. That said, today marks 1 year since my running journey began and I can't think of a better time to share than September when fall and cooler weather is right around the corner!

Prior to last September, I always called myself a seasonal runner. I'd find myself hitting the pavement each fall when cool weather would creep in and the leaves would start changing. As soon as winter came, the leaves fell from the trees, and temperatures dropped below about 50° my runs would come to a halt until the first warm weather of spring would creep in and the leaves would begin emerging once again. Last year, for reasons still unbeknownst to me, that changed, though. I found myself craving my runs and discovered that cold weather runs are by far my favorite. After running the Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving, I made a goal to complete a 10 miler by the New Year. Since then, I've run the Shamrock Half Marathon and the Monument Avenue 10k. I've run each and every month - some months more than others - and have logged a total 327 miles.

I've shared snippets along the way on Instagram, as a way to keep myself accountable, and have gotten many requests from you to share my tips. Particularly tips to take those first steps, so am compiling my top 10 here today!

ONE

JUST GO!

My number one tip is to just go! My biggest running cheerleader is a best friend who's both a physical therapist and marathon runner. She always says "The first mile is a liar" insinuating that it's harder than the rest. Set your own pace and set small goals and milestones to celebrate along the way.

TWO

COMMIT TO A ROUTINE

I'll be the first to admit that the last couple of months I've failed at this one. Between sickness, work, and heat, making running a routine has been tough. That said, when you're just getting started a routine is key. Commit to running at least 2-3 times per week, with recovery days in between. You'll be amazed at how quickly you build endurance and stamina as you make running a habit. 

THREE

DON'T BE AFRAID TO WALK

As I mentioned above, set your own pace at the beginning. To expand on that, don't be afraid to stop and walk if you need. Your first goal may be to work up to a mile without stopping, but if the first few runs you have to stop at half a mile, do it! It's amazing what just a short 30 seconds, 1 minute, or 1 block walking break will do to reenergize you. If giving yourself a walking break or two means you can run 3 miles instead of 2, it's well worth it! 

FOUR

PINPOINT YOUR "EASY RUN"

Once you've been running a few weeks, pinpoint what feels like an easy distance to run (this can, should, and will change as you run more). Use this "easy run" to negotiate with yourself. For me that's 3 miles. On days that I'm really not feeling motivated, I use my easy run as a negotiation. I tell myself "I'll just run an easy 3 miles." More often than not once I get started, I get in a groove and run 4, 5, or even 6 miles...again, the first steps are the hardest, so bargain with yourself if you need.

FIVE

MEASURE YOUR RUNS IN HALF MILE INCREMENTS

This tip stems from my Type A tendencies, but I do think makes a difference when you're working to increase your distance. I have my running app (I use Map My Run) set to alert me at half mile intervals. I always stop on the mile or half mile for my cool-down. Once you've worked your way up to running 2 or 3 miles with ease, adding a half mile, which is about 5 minutes, doesn't seem so tough. Sometimes you'll even get to that half mile point and realize you've got an extra 5 minutes in you and can push another half mile. Once you get to running even longer distances, it can become a mind game and I even will equate half miles to songs. 10 minutes more is about 2 songs (give or take), so I'll tell myself "You can run for just 2 more songs!" if I've got a mile left.

SIX

REMEMBER EVERY RUN IS DIFFERENT

Keep in mind that every run is different. I've worked myself up to a "normal" run being around 5 miles, and that even feels easy sometimes. There are days, however (if it's really hot, or, I ate a big lunch, for example) when just 3 miles can be brutal. I never beat myself up for those runs, though, and always tell myself that running slow or a short distance is better than stopping or skipping the run altogether.

SEVEN

LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION

For me, scenery is huge! I beeline it out of my neighborhood as soon as I can making my way to Grove Avenue, where I can loop in and out of all of my favorite Richmond neighborhoods admiring the pretty houses. Being surrounded with beauty, as well as other people and activity, makes my runs so much more enjoyable. When I get in a rut, I'll also switch up my route slightly, or run down a street I've never run before to keep things fresh. Similarly, whenever I'm out of town and run in a new place, I'm amazed at how far I can go, because the excitement of exploring a new place is a distraction from fatigue.

EIGHT

SAFETY FIRST

I prefer to run outside, which does bring risks. Bryce says he literally worries about me the entire time I am gone on runs. First things first, put your phone away! I've fallen twice during runs: Once in March 2018 and once last September. During the first fall, I skinned my knee really badly and also scraped my hands. During the second, I crushed my phone and had Millie with me. Both times I was looking at my phone to adjust something on my running app. After the second tumble, I immediately ordered this running belt. It's essentially a fanny pack, and not chic, but it keeps me hands free and is also waterproof! Buying shoes at a running shop recommended for your feet and gait, giving yourself recovery days, stretching and strength training will all help avoid injury. Don't run at night, but do purchase clip on lights and reflective gear for dusk runs, or times you may get accidentally caught in the dark. Wear sunscreen, especially on your face and chest!

NINE

SIGN UP FOR A RACE

Never underestimate the power of a race to hold you accountable. As mentioned above, in my Turkey Trot 10k training last fall, I loved that I had caught what I called the running bug. I was so nervous I'd give up my runs over the cold winter, so signed up for the Shamrock Half Marathon on St. Patrick's Day, because I knew it would force me to stick with it through the winter. I'm so glad I did, because winter runs became my very favorite. Not to mention, there's no feeling quite like crossing the finish line...especially when it's for a distance you never thought possible!

TEN

NEVER GIVE UP

If you're interested in running, just keep at it - never give up! As I shared, I was a seasonal runner for years, and every time I would start it was with the intention of going beyond the season. Until last fall, though, it just never stuck. I still am not sure what it is that hooked me last year, but once I was hooked, I decided to embrace it! When life happens and you fall out of the habit, do give yourself grace. For example, I only ran one time in May, then the next month in June, I ran more times than any other month during this year of running. August was a really demanding month, and likewise, I only ran once. This September is a new start, though! Never give up!

And on that note, I need to figure out my next race! My birthday falls on the Turkey Trot (also Thanksgiving) this year, but I'm not sure yet if we'll be spending Thanksgiving in town or the country this year. I'm been considering signing up for the Richmond Half Marathon, also in November, but am still working through some issues where my left hamstring meets my IT band, so am not sure 13.1 miles is the smartest, or safest (see Tip #8 above) choice at this point. Regardless, though, I know I'm not giving up!

Are you a runner?

If so, what are your tips for new runners?

Have a great day!

Word of the Year: SAVOR

Happy Hump Day, readers!

Nine days in and I'm feeling really good about this upcoming year and am excited to see what's in store.

Blogging can be so cathartic and sharing my reflections of the past year and intentions for the new year here is a really good exercise. One of my all time favorite quotes is "I cannot advise that we remain as we are." by Socrates. This idea of constant improvement really drives me, and reflection and intention are an important part of growth.

So before I dive into my word of 2019, savor, I want to take a moment to reflect on 2018, which was truly one of the best years of my life.

(This is a long post, so if you'd rather skip ahead, scroll down to the graphic and start there.)

My word last year was intentional, with a particular focus in the areas of family and career. I shared that I felt as if I was on a precipice, the end of a high dive, and I wanted to make sure my jumps into the next phase of my life were the right ones.

In terms of career, I knew I had landed in the right profession, but I hadn't yet found just the right fit. I spent a good bit of time job searching last year and was relentless in my search. I knew I needed to land somewhere that had lasting power, and even turned down a few really great job offers, so that I could ultimately say yes to my dream job. I've been in my role now for nearly 9 months and really feel I have "landed." I have room to grow, stretch, and challenge myself; a boss who encourages creativity and risk; and a reasonable workload.  Additionally, I have incredible flexibility, which was a huge deciding factor during my job search, and will be crucial once we have bambinos.

Which leads me to my next point: family. This time last year, we knew we weren't quite ready to start a family, and wanted to focus on being intentional in a few areas to prepare for babes in the not so distant future: finances, spontaneity, and health. Finding a job where I could see myself as a working mom was one box I knew I needed to check before thinking about adding a baby to the mix; and my new role also fortunately was a nice title and salary jump. As newlyweds last year, we also felt the need to "catch up" post-wedding and honeymoon, and also figure out what financial path to take as a married couple. This wasn't a huge curve ball, as we had been living together for a few years, but it's something we're still working at and tweaking to find the right balance. Next, we  knew we wanted to take some more time to be selfish and spontaneous. We planned a somewhat last minute trip to England last year when opportunity struck (our friends, Erin and Ryan, are living in London temporarily). We drove to the Eastern Shore on a whim to see a 4:00 am rocket launch! We said "No thanks!" (countless) times to our meal plan and opted for Mexican and margaritas instead. Finally, in terms of health, we wanted to build habits to make us as healthy as possible before parenthood. I'm excited to say I'm starting 2019 about 14 pounds lighter than I started 2018, but more importantly I'm more physically fit and have a good balance in my diet. Sleep is still a health area we need to improve on, but hey, maybe, we're just preparing ourselves for the sleep deprivation that will come with children.

Okay, now onto 2019. That "moment" to reflect on 2018 got a bit wordy. Hopefully you're still with me, because I am PUMPED to jump into my word for this year!

savor (v): to delight in; enjoy

It took me quite a while to find this word. It was on the tip of my tongue for a while.

I've shared on here before that I'm Type A, a planner, a doer. I don't necessarily think those are bad traits, but I do find myself sometimes focusing so much on what's next, that I'm not fully present and enjoying what's now. I've even noticed a trend where in the second half of a month, I'll often say "I can't wait for X MONTH to be over." Not because it's a hard month, or there's something I'm looking forward to the next month, simply because I feel like I want to just keep going. I also sometimes struggle (though I've gotten much better) to let go of things that are outside of my control, or to accept when things don't go according to my plan and timeline. When I was in therapy in college, my therapist once said to me something like "Allie, I know you can explain all your feelings, analyze them, tell me why you should or shouldn't feel a certain way; but I want you to focus instead on just being in the feeling." 

For all these reasons, I knew I wanted this year to be about, quite frankly, just being. I considered the words breathe and serenity, but they felt too zen. I considered faith or trust, but both of those have connotations that strayed from my meaning. I also thought about gratitude or contentment, but they weren't quite right either.

As I continued and continued to go back to the drawing board what kept coming to mind was our recent New Year's Eve. We stayed in and early in the night, I was sitting by the fire sipping bubbly, Millie was next to me, Bryce was nearby in the kitchen, and Van Morrison was playing on the radio. In that moment all I could feel was pure joy. Similarly, when I think back to our trip to England, one of, if not the most, favorite moments was at Stonehenge when we sat in the grass, paused, and took in the rolling green hills, blue skies, grazing sheep, and wonder of the monument. The moments where I'm most happy, content, joyful are the moments were I am truly stopping, breathing, and savoring the here and now. 

So as I think to and celebrate all I achieved in 2018, in 2019 I want to focus less on what's next and more on seizing the moment.  Achievements will come, of this I'm sure, but what's most important is savoring the experiences - big and small, happy and sad, easy and tough - along the way.

Happy New Year, friends!

Do you set goals, resolutions, a word for the year?

Have a great day!

2018 in 12 Pictures

Happy Friday friends!

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season and your 2019 is off to a fabulous start!

I always feel energized and inspired in the new year, and this year is no different.

I'm pumped for 2019and am hoping to keep the blog flow going!

Last year, you may remember I posted 2017 in 12 Pictures. It was a fun way to recap the year and I thought I'd do it again this year.

2018 was one for the books, so let's jump right in!

JANUARY

We had a quiet, dry January, which I'm repeating again this year! 

I tricked myself into thinking I was drinking cocktails by serving my La Croix 

with lime in a fancy glass!

FEBRUARY

I hosted my third Valentine making party and made these 

cookie dough rice krispie treats which are always a big hit!

MARCH

We enjoyed a beautiful Sunday with the cutest

little Easter Bunny I've ever seen!

APRIL

I landed my dream job and had Bryce do a shoot of me for a 

major life update post with workwear picks...that never happened...

These shoes, though, (on sale!) you need them for work, and play!

MAY

We enjoyed a bountiful peony season!

It is such a treat having our yard filled with peonies passed down from both our grandparents.

JUNE

We celebrated our first wedding anniversary! We started the day with brunch at

Portico, then made our way to Tuckahoe Plantation to walk the gardens and reminisce,

and finally enjoyed wedding cake and our wedding video!

JULY

We made our way to Bryce's hunt club for a couples weekend.

Millie was a happy marsh dog!

AUGUST

We "holidayed" in London and the Cotswolds and it was an incredible week! So hard to choose a

favorite, but Stonehenge left me wonderstruck and was a highlight. So grateful to our London hosts, Erin and Ryan.

SEPTEMBER

We made our way to Washington, D.C. for a day date that started at Le Diplomate

and ended at Jiffy Lube Live to see Van Morrison!

OCTOBER

I partnered with Serena & Lily to set what might be my prettiest tablescape yet.

Full post here.

NOVEMBER

Wow, what a month November was! I had such a hard time choosing just one photo:

Turkey Trot, hosting our first Thanksgiving, and turning 30! 30 won out...I celebrated all

month long, and it sure was fun!

DECEMBER

The most magical (12") snow came right in the midst of the holiday hustle and bustle

and provided just the respite we needed! And boy, snow is even more beautiful at Christmastime!

Wow, 2018 sure was good to me!

I can't wait to see what 2019 has in store, and will be posting deeper reflections and my word of the year next week. Last year's word of the year in this post.

What are the highlights from your year?

Have a great weekend!

30!

Happy November 28, 2018...aka my 30th birthday!

jumpsuit

It's crazy to think when I started this blog in 2011, I was just 22, still in college, and a few months shy of meeting Bryce. It's been with me for most of my 20s and huge milestones like graduation, teaching, leaving teaching, a new career, Millie, an engagement and wedding (Sheesh! I'm so behind on getting y'all these posts!), and more; so it only feels fitting to document this milestone. I'll start this post recapping my 30th birthday cocktail party that was a couple weekends ago on the 17th and then end with 30 thoughts. Thoughts on turning 30, life lessons, random tidbits, and more.

Now buckle your seatbelts, you're in for a long ride with this post!

Before jumping into the cocktail party, I have to recap you on the night before. Bryce's hunt club is not far from NASA's Wallops Flight Facility, and from the dock in their marsh there is a clear view of the rocket launch pad. Bryce has always dreamed of seeing a rocket launch, but they are often in the  middle of the night during the week, and also frequently get cancelled due to weather. The morning of the 16th, the day before my party, Bryce told me a rocket was being launched that night/morning at 4:01 am- weather forecasts were clear and there was a 95% chance of launch. He asked if I'd be game to go. I think he was shocked when I said yes! I told him I had plans to get a mani pedi after work, so if he would get Millie packed and loaded, we could head out as soon as I got home and had a few minutes to throw some yoga pants in a bag. I also requested that we stop and get brunch at my favorite Virginia Beach brunch spot Leaping Lizard Cafe on the way home, and that we get back with enough time for me to run before my blow out at 4:30. (Spoiler Alert: I skipped the run, but ran 8 miles the next day!) Y'all, what an experience it was! How amazing to see the sky light up and a rocket launch all the way up into space. Not to mention the rush we got from the spontaneity of it all. We've talked about embracing this time pre-kids to be spontaneous and it really inspired me to be more adventurous day to day! Here are a few photos recapping, and you can see more from the adventure on my Insta highlight reel here.

We arrived at about 9:30, popped a bottle of Moet, and then headed to bed at 11:00.

The alarm was set for 3:30 am, we got up, bundled up, and headed down to the marsh!

We followed along on Facebook Live in advance of the launch hearing cool tidbits (like the fact that the rocket had materials to study crystals that could teach us more about Parkinson's) and the final countdown.  

We went back to sleep from about 4:30 to 8:00 am, and then took in some final marsh air before heading home with a pitstop for brunch along the way. I really truly don't think there's any place more beautiful than Virginia.

So now onto the partay! My mother-in-law, RoseMarie, was so sweet to host a cocktail party. While I didn't get as many detail photos as I would have liked, I did get some great photos throughout the night!

RoseMarie believes homemade birthday cakes are the most special

and made each one of these cakes herself: the top with hot pink candles is a lemon cake, 

middle with yellow candles is key lime pound, and bottom with light pink candles is chocolate.

Yes, I did have a piece of each. The chocolate (recipe here) was my favorite!

Heavy hors d'oeuvres (also all homemade by RoseMarie) were served buffet style and passed. On the buffet, guests enjoyed beef tenderloin with grainy mustard, horse radish, and rolls; ham salad biscuits; artichoke dip, and chicken salad tarts. Mini crabcakes, ramekin-sized pastas in the pinks, and cranberry brie bites were passed. Cheese straws were also available at the bar for munching.

How gorgeous are these peach roses?

Personal-sized pastas in the pink!

I always enjoy the opportunity to bring separate groups of friends together, and the party included childhood friends, work friends, college friends, and more. Here are some snapshots with some of my guests.

With my mama!

Look at that stud in the background...

hope our kids are as cute as B was!

Blowout Buddy...

I met this lady a decade ago when we were 20!

Hostess with the Mostest! I certainly hit the jackpot 

when it comes to mother-in-laws.

Gal Pals

This guy knows how to make a birthday girl

feel like a million bucks!

Finally, you can't have a birthday post without some pictures recapping the birthday song and blowing out the candles!

 And now, if you've made it this far, let's jump into 30 thoughts and tidbits as I embark on 30. I'll try to mix up serious, random, and fun so it doesn't get too heavy along the way.

1. I recently had a phone conversation with a donor who turns 70 today. I commented that we both had milestone birthdays coming up on the 28th. He chuckled and when I told him I'd be 30, he told me to watch out. Turning 70 seemed like a big one, but the only other milestone birthday that had hit him hard was 30. Today, luckily, doesn't feel hard at all. I have a feeling this next decade might be my best and I'm excited to feel more like an "official" adult. Though, I do think 31 is going to hit me hard.

2. While I don't feel like 30 is old at all, I have cracked myself up a little bit on the vanity side of things. I've thought "I'm nearly 30, I can't wear this" a few times trying on clothes; took my hair back to a blonder shade from my youth during my last appointment; recently gasped upon discovering and then plucked a gray eyebrow hair; and told Bryce I wanted Botox to tackle forehead wrinkles (started using this peel about a month ago instead).

3. Your twenties are such a decade of growth, learning, and change. I started my twenties single and in school and am ending it married with a dog seven years into the workforce. What's funny, is while my early twenties may have been a time of less responsibility, I'm actually ending my twenties with  more of a carefree spirit. I'm still Type A, but I think a lot of my growth this last decade has been in learning to let go, and to choose where to focus my Type A energies.

4. I was born the Monday after Thanksgiving, two weeks early, and my dad, godfather, and other family friends worked tirelessly to finish an addition which included my nursery while my mom was in the hospital with me. Talk about nesting!

5. What I'm looking forward to most in this new decade is starting a family. I'm actually tearing up writing this, because being a mom has been my greatest dream all along. In fact, so much of my life's path up to this point has been chosen with a focus of that in mind. For example, when I started college, I had a serious interest in International Relations and working for the UN (I had traveled to the Hague my senior year of high school for the International Model UN), but realized I didn't want to live or raise a family in a big city like DC, New York, or abroad. While I don't regret a thing about my path, and think I've landed in literally the perfect career and spot, I'm glad to be ending my twenties with more a view of having both a career and motherhood.

6. On the flip side, if you had asked me in my early twenties my life goals, I would have told you I wanted to 3 kids, two boys and a baby girl, and have them all between the ages of 28 and 32. The closer I've gotten to 30, the more I've realized babies can wait a little longer.

7. I've always been bubbly, but the older I get, the more I realize just how important and powerful positivity is. I do my very best to always find the silver lining and also have learned it's okay to unapologetically let go of commitments, relationships, and things that bring you down.

8. Growing up my grandma always got my birthday cake from Westhampton Pastry Shop, a Richmond classic that is right down the street from our home now. Around the time that I was 8 or 9, I opted for ice cream cake instead which she would get from Baskin Robbins. In high school, I made the switch to Dairy Queen cakes (yummmm...cookie dough blizzard cake), and now I usually just get a special birthday dessert wherever I choose to go for my birthday dinner.

9. In addition to personal growth and development in my twenties, my palate also grew. At 20, barely any vegetables crossed my lips and now as I write this post I'm eating broccoli and am not picky at all! I still am not the biggest fan of fruits, though.

10. Bryce's favorite thing about me is that I'm "fiery" and I love that he loves that in me. I can't to be more fiery 30 years from now at 60 and even more fiery another 30 years after that as an old lady when I (hopefully) reach 90.

11. My favorite childhood birthday parties were my 9th, which was a carnival theme with games, face paint and my favorite dinner of chicken fingers, Velveeta mac & cheese, and Coca Cola in glass bottles; and my 12th which was a sleepover and we all went to Fuddurcker's for dinner with milkshakes.

12. I feel most at peace when I'm on the water and have always joked to Bryce that if I ever wrote a novel (ha!) a theme would be the restorative power of water - think about it, a hot shower, a good cry, a dive into the pool, the sound of waves crashing against the shore. They all have restorative power.

13. It's funny how over time our preferences change, but some things always stay the same. Point in case, favorite colors. A change: As a child green was my least favorite color, now it's one of my very favorite. An always stays the same: Pink has and always will be a favorite ("Pink is my signature color." Name that quote, from one of my all time favorite movies, Steel Magnolias - I have the fondest memories of watching that movie again and again curled up in bed with my mom.)

14. Tonight we are headed to Heritage for my birthday dinner. It is one of my favorite Richmond restaurants, and I've celebrated 3 or 4 other birthdays there. If you go, you must order the pimiento cheese croquettes as an app! Also hoping they have the egg nog special I enjoyed on my birthday there last year.

15. Random thought--this is getting hard, and I'm only halfway done!

16. If I could change one thing in my life's path to this point, it would be my choice to go to UVA. Don't get me wrong- I received an amazing education, made some lifelong friends, and have a huge amount of school pride as well as love for Charlottesville. That said, I think I would have thrived more and been happier at a smaller school, though my 18 year old self didn't realize that.

17. Speaking of UVA, I'm most grateful to their Women's Center which offers free, unlimited counseling to students. My second year was a tough one. My grandpa whom I adored died and I broke up with an abusive boyfriend all in the same month. That year I was a mess (though I excelled in school and fitness - the Type A in me tends to go crazy over the things I can control when life seems to be in disarray); and the Women's Center was a refuge. After that year, I continued to go back occasionally whenever I needed a "tune up" and am so glad it exists for students. Whenever I make donations to UVA, I always make them to the Women's Center in honor of Margaret, my counselor.

18. In school, I was always a math and English person, not the typical English-history or math-science. When it comes to English, y'all know I love to read and write and a huge part of my career utilizes both my oral and written communication skills. When it comes to math, I always love looking for patterns around me and geek out over data!

19. I was excited to get the chance to take the StrengthsFinder test for work this year. My #1 strength is achiever (read more about it here), and at first I was disappointed feeling like it was callous and all about just going, going, going. Then I read in the takeaway materials that Achievers are driven by a desire to leave the world a better place than they found it and I thought "YESSS!!!" In fact, when we were in premarital counseling and the minister asked what we saw as the purpose of life, that was my exact answer. My #2 was Strategic, #3 was Individualization, #4 was Learner, and #5 was Responsibility.

20. As I've gotten older, I've realized just how much I'd rather buy less and invest or splurge on items I really love. Sure, I still love a deal and finding affordable items, but the things in my closet that have really stood the test of time have been those splurges (albeit many of them I've stalked and waited to purchase on major sale, haha). Those that follow on Instagram know Bryce treated me to a Goyard bag this year for my birthday, and I told him it could count for all my gifts this entire year, and maybe even a few more birthdays if he wanted. I'd rather have one big thing than lots of little. I also decided to splurge and treat myself to these Ferragamos in London for my 30th and have saved them to wear for the first time today!

21. On the flip, frivolous side, I did snag these on sale on a whim Monday to wear for my birthday and through the holidays!

22. We hosted my family for Thanksgiving this year which felt like a very grown up, almost 30, thing to do. All I could think as I prepared was just how thankful I am to have Bryce by my side. He really and truly is a partner, and how many men do you know that can make homemade yeast rolls, garden like nobody's business; and hunt ducks and do manly things?

23. One steadfast supporter and friend throughout my 20s has been my friend Maddie. We actually first "met" through blogging. She and I are the same age (literally...she turned 30 this month, too) and both started blogs right around the same time. Somehow along the way we became email pen pals and every few months would send each other massive emails updating each other on all aspects of our life, as well as sharing lots of deep, philosophical thoughts about the various phases we were in. When one of her emails would hit my inbox, I'd drop everything to read it and then let it all soak in and respond a few months later. She moved to DC about a year ago, and our pen pal days have stopped because we are now real life friends and have visited each other 3 or 4 times in the last year.

24. Speaking of supportive friends, one of the best lessons I've learned in the last decade was from my best friend, Angela. When I was grappling with the decision of whether or not to leave teaching she said to me "You can keep teaching and know you'll be miserable, or you can try something else and take a chance at being happy." I've thought of that advice so many times over the years since she shared it. Don't ever let the fear of the unknown hold you back from trying something that could be great, wonderful, amazing!

25. Millie is the light of my life. I never knew how much I could love a dog, y'all! While I know kids will be an infinitely deeper love, it breaks my heart to think about Millie losing her prime spot in our life once they come along. We regularly call Millie "baby" so much that she looks up when she hears it, so she's going to be so confused when a real human baby comes along. I even recently told Bryce, when we have a baby, we need to make sure to occasionally leave the baby in the crib so Millie can have Saturday morning snuggles in bed.

26. I'm so glad to be entering 30 in the best shape of my life. I've caught the running bug this fall and can't believe I now run around 5 miles on a "typical" run and have done up to 8 miles on a few long runs. What I've loved about running consistently and at longer distances, is that it's allowed me more balance in my diet. I tend to eat pretty healthy, but running has allowed me to indulge my sweet tooth more frequently while continuing to see the number on the scale go down! I also love that with running, you can really track your progress and set goals surrounding speed, distance, etc...must be that "Achiever" in me wanting to check off the next goal.

27. Speaking of fitness, I'm so glad that I'm also entering my 30th year as a barre instructor! I've loved barre since I started taking it in 2014 and have enjoyed getting to know the instructors I've admired for so long more closely. If you're local, come join me bright and early at BarReVA at 6 am on Tuesdays!

28. I hate that our world has become so polarized and hope to see that change over the next decade. When I think back to my education, the most pivotal moments are the ones that challenged me to think differently, see something from another perspective, and even sometimes be persuaded to change my opinion.

29. In terms of the world today, one of my all time favorite quotes is a Dalai Lama one: "My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness." Yes, I realize there are really really big problems in the world (too many of them), but I do strongly believe in the power of people and that a smile and kindness can go a long way toward achieving a better world.

30. This blog means so much to me and I love the community in you. While my posting frequency has waxed and waned throughout the years, and I do admittedly miss the "old" blogging days, I hope that the blog will live on through my 30s and all to come.

Whew! Did any of you make it to the end?

Many of you asked on Instagram for day to day lifestyle posts like these, so I hope this didn't bore or disappoint.

If you did make it here, can you relate to any of my thoughts?

What have been some of your reflections as you've hit milestone birthdays?

Have a great day!

2018 Holiday Gift Guide: LADIES

Happy Tuesday readers!

I hope you're having a great week! 

Today is my Friday and I am so excited for Thanksgiving break.

We are hosting my family for Thanksgiving this year and I am glad to have the extra day to prepare. 

I'm excited to bring you my Ladies Gift Guide today. I always have so much fun putting these together and was glad to hear from so many of you on Instagram that you love shopping them. This year, I'm adding a new feature. As always, all items will be linked below the guide, but at the bottom, I'll have notes about each item (promo codes; why I chose it, personal experience with products I own, etc), so if there's something you have your eye on, be sure to scroll down for more details and to see if it's on sale. 

And for those of you that told me you always find your man's gifts on my guides, Gents is coming tomorrow!

Many of these items are under $100 and many already on sale as Black Friday seems to now be a whole "Black Week." 

As in past posts, many of these links are affiliate meaning I earn a small commission if you click and purchase. Thanks for your support!

leopard booties / rose face cream / pearl ring / leopard ornament /

Dream Design Live / bow back sweater / hoops / overnight peel / 

pink scarf / wavy bowl / sunglasses / leather leggings / tray / candle /

champagne ornament / olive vest / crossbody bag / lip balm / lip gloss / Southern Appetizers /

cashmere throw / mocassin slippers / nail polish / tan towels / champagne key ring /

cashmere tech gloves / keepsake cutting board / pearl cluster earrings / y'all socks /

oyster dish / garden stool / crossover cuff / pajamas / perfume roller / pink velvet pumps

Leopard Booties: booties are a go-to fall through winter and these might be top of my personal Christmas list; also come in a fun star print and solid leather options; Boden is known for quality and you can get these for 30% of with code V4N9
Rose Face Cream: I recently received a sample of this and it lasted me about a week- in that time, my face became so incredibly smooth, so as soon as I run out of my daily moisturizer, I plan to replace it with this one; it has a lovely rose scent and feels very decadent on so would be great for someone on your list who could use some pampering; a little pricey, but there's also a gift set featuring it here that you can get for under $50 with code BEAUTY20
Pearl Ring: I have been swooning over this since I found it for the gift guides and might just have to order it for myself; it feels very Julie Vos, but is under $50!
Leopard Ornament: I love this little guy and ornaments can make fun gifts or even look great tied on the outside of a present with your gift tag and bow; what's even better is he's chic enough to stay out year-round long after the tree is gone; 20% off with code HOME
Dream Design Live: under $25 and another personal wish list item; you may remember I mentioned it in this post; I've flipped through this book in Barnes & Noble and have a major design crush on its author Paloma Contreras
Bow Back Sweater: on sale for under $50; must see the back of this sweater; it was one of my very favorite purchases last winter so I'm thrilled it's been restocked and you can see it styled on my Insta here; it does run large (mine is petite XS and still roomy enough to be cozy or layered over a button down)
Hoops: currently on sale with free shipping; I've seen these in person in a local boutique and love;  they make a statement while still being subtle enough for daytime wear; and if you really want to splurge and spoil a special lady with hoops, you can get these which are a staple in my wardrobe that I wear at least 3 times a week
Overnight Peel: I started using this peel about 3 weeks ago and holy moly, y'all: what a transformation in my skin!; you've even been commenting on Insta and asking for a skincare post- it's coming - but in the meantime, get this; I use it nightly; if you don't believe me check the 1,183 5 star reviews and snag it while it's on sale for under $50 (from Kathleen Baker, if you don't have your own consultant)
Pink Scarf: okay, I'm ordering this- it's on sale for $10...I may order 10 and get them for all my friends; love that the pink is versatile for post-holiday wear (hello, Valentine's Day!), but it also comes in 4 other colorways including a tartan that screams Christmas!
Wavy Bowl: I'm a big fan of Susan Gordon Pottery and these wavy bowls; they are stunning and I've gifted them to others before; bonus points for supporting a female small business owner!
Sunglasses: there's just something so glamorous about a big pair of tortoise shell sunglasses; I've been eyeing (pun intended) a pair of Karen Walkers for years, and one of my faves Katie Chalk wears these so well; these hardly ever go on sale so snag them now for up to 25% off with code MORE18
Leather Leggings: these were a favorite of yours and mine last year and for good reason; they're high waisted and suck you in in all the right places; if between sizes, I recommend sizing up; I wear a medium; I recently learned they come in a maternity version for any readers who are expecting and a friend who is due in late December was raving about them, and you can get them up to 25% off here with code MORE18
Tray: trays are one of my favorite design elements because they can make a table look pulled together; also love them for entertaining; natural fibers ground a space, but I love that this one takes the design to the next level by modernizing the rattan with acrylic; 20% off with code HOME
Candle: under $50; I'm really picky when it comes to candles; I don't like anything strong or fruity; I prefer crisp, clean scents and this one is amazing, y'all; I had it burning when I hosted barReVA Friendsgiving last week everyone was asking where I got it!
Champagne Ornament: under $15; another fun ornament for any ladies with an effervescent personality; this one, too, can stay out on the bar cart through New Years and past the holidays
Olive Vest: this fleece lined vest can be dressed up with a blouse or down with athleisure gear; it is made to be a Barbour liner, but doubles as a vest; if you want to purchase as a liner, purchase in the same size as your Barbour coat; if you want to purchase as a vest, I recommend sizing up one size; up to 30% off with code GOWILD
Crossbody Bag: I have this in navy and it may have been my best purchase of the year; it is big enough to hold a wallet, keys, phone, and more, but still sleek; I used it during our entire England trip; the strap is removable so it can be worn as a clutch or crossbody; dressed up and down; since getting my Goyard, I keep mine in my bag with my wallet in it at all times, so I can just slip it out if I don't want to carry my big tote somewhere; Gigi New York always has amazing sales, so I'd watch this over the next few days leading up to Black Friday
Lip Balm: under $10; this Mint Rose balm is my absolute favorite; I've been using it for probably 10 years now and always have a jar on my bedside table and a tube in my bag so I'm not using germy fingers when out and about; would make a perfect stocking stuffer or teacher gift paired with some nice hand lotion and a candle
Lip Gloss: I actually wore this lip gloss at my wedding in the "Giza" shade; it can be worn as a gloss alone, but I love it most layered over lipstick, particularly red lipstick
Southern Appetizers: under $15; I came across this book in a Norfolk boutique and added it to my wish list; it is filled with recipes for favorite Southern appetizers, but the recipes are divided into sections focused on a party theme so the book does double duty as a cookbook and party guide
Cashmere Throw: comes in 10 colors!; perfect for the friend who has everything; more of a splurge, but 40% off with code TOGETHER
Mocassin Slippers: I've had these (in the color pictured) now for 6 years and absolutely love them; come in 7 colors and an animal print here; come so cozy, water resistant and have a rubber sole so they can be worn outside; I often slip them on when I'm headed to the barre studio at 0 dark 30 to teach 6:00 am class; run large, order one full size down; also love this more affordable monogrammed version (just over $25 with code NOVEMBER 40)
Nail Polish: this shade "No More Film" might be my very favorite nail polish; it's almost black, but has a subtle navy/purple tint to it; I always get compliments on it; perfect as a stocking stuffer or bundled with other beauty gifts
Tan Towels: another great beauty stocking stuffer; my favorite way to get a faux glow; perfect for your friend who dreams of tropical places during the cold, pale winter months
Champagne Key Ring: this "Press for Champagne" key ring is too cute and again, would be a great stocking stuffer; I also think it could be a fun white elephant gift; attach it to a bow tied around a bottle of your favorite bubbly!; 10% off with code SHOPSMALL10
Cashmere Tech Gloves: for your friend who's always gramming, texting, emailing - ensure her fingers stay toasty all winter; come in 9 colors; 50% off TODAY 11/20 (putting them under $30) with code GOLDENDEAL
Keepsake Cutting Board: what a keepsake!; submit an image of an heirloom family recipe and have it engraved on this board; would be perfect for a newlywed; order by December 8 for Christmas guarantee; 15% off (making it under $150) with code SHOPSMALL15
Pearl Cluster Earrings: these were actually my wedding earrings! - see here; I've gotten asked for a source a few times, so knew y'all would love them; what's great is they look equally cute dressed down as they do up, and I love wearing them on special occasions (like my 30th birthday party this past weekend); 40% off (putting them just over $40) with code TOGETHER
Y'all Socks: just $15; perfect for the friend you can have yoga pant wine nights with; socks make the perfect stocking stuffer, too; 10% off with code SHOPSMALL10
Oyster Dish: I received this oyster dish as a wedding present and it is a stunner; it can be used for entertaining or would be equally useful on a nightstand for jewelry; aluminum so it never tarnishes; I also have the medium and the small can nest inside the corner which is great for serving dips with raw veggies, etc
Garden Stool: I have one of these in our dining room and am thinking of getting it a mate; makes a great little side table, too; if you're local check out Three Swallows in Norfolk to get one, and other blue and white finds, for a steal!
Crossover Cuff: I've had this cuff for 3 or 4 years now and love it; it is delicate and elegant and can also be stacked with other bracelets; also comes in rose gold here
Pajamas: on sale for under $50; pajamas are one of my favorite gifts to receive; love the colors and "sweet dreams" detail on these; I don't have them, but have found other J. Crew pajamas to run true to size
Perfume Roller: just $30; this is my favorite perfume that I've been wearing now for probably 5 years; the roller is great for travel and I always keep it in my purse; nothing like some perfume and red lipstick for a boost; awesome stocking stuffer
Pink Velvet Pumps: vavavoom!; perfect for the glam girl who has everything; pink - check; velvet - check; pearls - check

Have you started your holiday shopping yet?

Who's on your gift list?

Who do you find the toughest to shop for?

And for fun, what's on YOUR wish list?

Happy shopping!

30th Birthday Inspiration

Happy November friends!

I can't believe November, and my birthday month (!), is already here!

This week has been a crazy one so I knew I wouldn't have time for a big post and polled y'all on Instagram to see what you'd rather see: Must Have Vests or 30th BDay Inspo.

Birthday Inspiration won with 59% of the vote, so I'm posting that today and will get to vests next week.

November 28 is my 30th birthday and believe it or not I am really excited about turning 30. While I have felt a little old here and there (hello forehead wrinkles!) and went back to a blonder shade during my last hair appointment, perhaps in an effort to cling to my youth, I overall can't wait to be the big 3-0. I've always thought my 30s would be my best decade. Bryce and I are in a great place and have settled into married life, my career is in a place I actually didn't anticipate even reaching before 30, and finally, we have our sweet Millie baby with plans to grow our family even more at some point during my early 30s. So, yeah, 30 is looking good!

Being a milestone birthday, I'm thrilled to report that my mother-in-law is hosting a 30th birthday party for me! I haven't had a true birthday party since my Sweet 16 surprise party, so this should be fun!

In an effort to guide her planning, RoseMarie, my mother-in-law requested some ideas and inspiration and pulling together a Pinterest board for her made me even more excited. I'll share the overall vision with you here.

The theme is a little Kate Spade-ish, with black and white stripes, gold, and varying shades of pink and red. I also decided some zebras needed to be thrown into the mix and lots of bubbly.

Here's a proof of the invitation that hit mailboxes a week or so ago:

It will be a traditional cocktail party with heavy hors d'oeuvres. My mother-in-law even has bought a bunch of ramekins to make my favorite Pasta in the Pink (recipe coming soon) to be passed! 

Those that have been following along for a while, know how much I love the iconic Scalamandre zebras (anyone remember this post from almost 6 years ago?). When thinking of a party, though, zebra print runs the risk of getting tacky really quick. That said, classic Scalamandre cocktail napkins add a subtle and chic pop of zebra, don't you think? 

Caspari Scalamandre Zebra Cocktail Napkins in Gold

You can't have a birthday party without cake, and I am loving this one! 

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Bubbly and balloons are also a birthday must, and these photos are oh so feminine and chic:

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Does a millennial even turn 30 without 

giant gold 3-0 balloons to document it!?

Because gold tinsel makes everything more fun!

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Every birthday girl needs a crown right?

I'm pretty sure I need this?

Finally, on the docket, and of top priority for the evening, is my birthday suit...jumpsuit, that is! 

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I scored this jumpsuit on mega sale a couple of weeks ago! It's price has since been marked up a bit, but it's still heavily discounted, and also available at less of a discount, but in more sizes here. If you do order, know it runs small! I am a typically a 4, sometimes 6, and the 6 was a bit more snug than I'd like. I've exchanged an am waiting for the 8 to arrive and am really hoping it fits nicely. 

See the full Pinterest board, including many other swoon-worthy cakes and fun details, here.

So what do you think? 

Any details I'm missing or recommendations?

How do you celebrate milestone birthdays?

Have a great day first day of November!